A couple of months ago, I fought with my bestie. “I have expectations and I will not shy away from voicing them and demanding them.”
Today, my monologue with my bestie is limited to myself, and less confrontational than that. I don’t expect calls. I don’t expect that when I call, she will pick up (She has a track record of not picking up now...)
I don’t expect catch-ups on the weekend.
When I send reels, I don’t expect they’ll be seen for a week or more.
Being busy is one thing, but not responding to texts in a reasonable time, not getting in touch… or, worse, ignoring texts because they are not worthy of a response by some metric… UGH!
With some people, I want them to try. It feels like now I get the same treatment from her as I do from some of my new “friends.” Stories between them are so different. I can make peace with new friends being unavailable, at least logically if not emotionally, but this…
It sucks.
All relationships change, though.
Perhaps while we were busy going from partners to ex-partners and now-besties, what bestie meant changed somewhere without me ever having a finger on it.
I have a habit of being dramatic, though. So, whatever, in the end?